Sympathy cards. They’re the ones we never want to have to write in and the ones we appreciate the most when given to us.
When you’re grieving, messages of love and support mean so much. They can keep you anchored when it feels like you’re adrift on a storm-tossed sea of loss and sadness. They can help remind you that there is still love surrounding you and life yet to live.
We have a range of different sympathy card styles because everyone is different. Some are more philosophical, some particularly suited to the loss of a pet, some with inspiring quotes and others just simple and beautiful.
There are various messages to choose from but try to always add your own words, as hard as it might be, because your handwritten words are a gift in themselves. Use our beautiful cards to start, and then add your love and wishes for the grieving family.
What to write in a sympathy card
If you’re struggling to know what to write in a sympathy card, you could follow this format:
- A condolence message: I’m so sorry for your loss; Our hearts are breaking for you; I was so sad to hear.
- Explain how you knew the person who died: I worked with; I played netball with; I grew up with.
- Show your appreciation for the person who died: I have the best memories of; What a kind and loving person; I will never forget when.
- Offer your help: We’ll take care of your mowing for as long as you need; I’d like to cook you a meal every Wednesday; Can I help by walking Scooter in the mornings?
- A meaningful quote: The soul would have no rainbow, had the eyes no tears (John Vance Cheney); Only tears can heal. (Oscar Wilde); This is my wish for you. Comfort on difficult days, smiles when sadness intrudes, rainbows to follow the clouds (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
Here is an example:
I am so sorry to hear about your mum’s passing.
I’ll never forget her kindness when we worked together at the software company - she was always the first to extend her friendship to new employees, and it made all the difference to me on my first day. She became one of my closest colleagues, and I will miss her so much.
I’d love to help with catering for the memorial service, as I have some of your mum’s favourite recipes, and I’d love to share those with everyone.
I hope you’re surrounded by comforting hugs. If I can help in any other way, please let me know.
What to avoid
It goes without saying that everyone experiences grief differently. So, don’t say you know how they feel - you don’t, actually. And, refrain from giving advice - just because something worked for you doesn’t mean it will work for them.
Avoid religious content unless you are sure they are on the same spiritual page as you. As much as you might want to give them access to the beliefs that support you, do respect their sovereignty and give them the simple gift of your love instead.
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